Singles Sparks - CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles - January 25 Edition

Hello LoVers,

Have you ever noticed that dating gets frustrating when your focus is on what other people aren’t doing? That’s the fastest way to feel powerless. They aren’t replying, following through, or showing up, and it’s so frustrating! I get it!

Flip the Script

Flip the script. What is in your control is your energy, your consistency, how intentionally you show up, and your ability to stay grounded instead of falling in love with someone’s potential. Control the controllables. The rest has a way of sorting itself out. If this resonates with you, it’s probably a shift you need to make next.

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Valentine's Day Singles Party

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In this week’s HOT TOPIC, we’re talking about the questions to ask yourself when dating. Plus, read our TOP 3 ways to deal with someone who has to be right. And don’t miss this week’s funnies at the bottom. Gotta laugh because this dating game is NO JOKE!

Singles Spotlight

Check this week’s Singles Spotlight to see if YOUR match is featured this week. Then, click here to schedule a 10-minute call so I can learn a bit more about you and see if my private and personalized Matchmaking service is right for you.

Big love to you always!

xo,

Jill

CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles

This isn’t just a singles party... It’s a real opportunity to make real connections. Why have one first date on Valentine’s Day when you can meet a whole room of eligible singles in one night? Mixer attendees tend to be 28–50ish, but this is an open-aged event. You’ll find your people. Don’t overthink it. Advanced tickets are a MUST.

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Hot Topic: Questions to Ask Yourself When Dating

Not all dating is created equal; it can serve different purposes depending on where you are in your life. You might be just coming out of a previous relationship and know you’re not ready for anything serious yet; you’re looking for someone to go dancing with, attend concerts with, or just help you have a reason to get out of the house on weekends.

Read about it here and tell me what you think!

Top 3 Ways to Deal with Someone Who Has to Be Right

1. When possible, walk away from the conflict: An individual who always needs to be right during conflict can be an energy drainer. Learning the timing of when to throw up a white flag and calmly walk away from conflict that is going nowhere is invaluable. When situations are escalating, emotions are heating up, and you have been talking in circles for an extensive amount of time, it’s best to assertively state you are going to leave the conflict.

   
   

2. Stay out of the blame game: Feeling an urge to point it out when someone is hurtfully engaging in conflict or making it challenging to actually resolve anything and move forward is completely natural. Unfortunately, this reaction will help neither party and is likely to create more dissonance. Blaming creates increased problems, whereas taking responsibility for your own actions can resolve issues.

   
   

3. Keep the conflict focused on one topic: People who always want to be right tend to be experts at incorporating non-relevant information into every argument. Staying ahead of this pattern will conserve your energy and avoid rehashing things that have no bearing on the present.

   
   

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