Halloween may be over, but for some singles, the scariest thing isn't ghosts, goblins, or things that go bump in the night… it's DATING! Putting yourself out there. Making the first move. Letting someone in. Risking rejection. Or perhaps even scarier… finding someone you REALLY like and realizing you have something to lose. AH!

This week, I had the pleasure of taking a little field trip to iHeartRadio in NYC, where I was a guest on the Passage to Profit Show alongside Dr. Kristine Sickels, author of The Clearest Voice in the Room: How to Speak with Power and Intention at Work.

Have you ever sent a text, received no immediate reply and somehow ended up questioning the date, the connection...and your entire love life? We've all been there. When information is missing, our fears and wounds are very willing to fill in the blanks: Maybe I said too much. Maybe they lost interest. Maybe I completely misread everything. Ah!

Have you ever sent a text, received no immediate reply and somehow ended up questioning the date, the connection...and your entire love life? We've all been there. When information is missing, our fears and wounds are very willing to fill in the blanks: Maybe I said too much. Maybe they lost interest. Maybe I completely misread everything. Ah!

Have you ever sent a text, received no immediate reply and somehow ended up questioning the date, the connection...and your entire love life? We've all been there. When information is missing, our fears and wounds are very willing to fill in the blanks: Maybe I said too much. Maybe they lost interest. Maybe I completely misread everything. Ah!

Just me, or has this week has been seriously emotionally charged? I am feeeelin' it in my work, in the lives of people I care about and, honestly, just in life. It made me think about how easily we give someone else all the credit (or all the blame) for how we felt around them.

Today is my birthday! I'm always especially reflective around my birthday, my children's birthdays and most holidays. Okay, fine... I'm almost always emotionally vulnerable, sensitive and reflective. You got me :)

One of the most confusing dating situations isn't when someone is treating you badly. It's when they seem to like you, things feel good and you still don't know where you stand. But before you have the "clarity conversation" remember, it isn't only about asking... "Do you want to commit to me?" You MUST first ask yourself "Do I want to commit to this?"

At some point, you do have to wonder if it's really EVERYONE ELSE. A client said something to me this week that I LOVED. She's been meeting men who check so many of her boxes... same stage of life, divorced with young kids, desire for a blended family, successful, active, emotionally ready for a relationship. But she simply hasn't been attracted to them. And after this happened a few times, she stopped and wondered: "Wait... do I just not find men attractive anymore?"

I realize some of the dating advice I give works especially well in matchmaking because I have the advantage of talking to both people. I know he likes her but doesn't want to come on too strong. I know she likes him but is waiting for him to make the next plan. I can see when two people who actually like each other are overthinking, misreading each other, or about to get in their own way.

I'm ALL FOR honesty in relationships. This isn't permission to lie, hide something important, or be deceptive. But honesty doesn't mean giving someone immediate access to every chapter of your life. So many pieces of your past made you who you are today: relationships, heartbreaks, mistakes, lessons, ALL OF IT. Revealing those pieces too quickly can mean sharing them before someone has enough context to understand who you became because of them.

I just got back from an incredible trip through the Grand Canyon and Antelope Canyon, and standing inside those massive, perfectly sculpted walls, I kept thinking about what created all of this gorgeousness. Water. Not force. Not pressure. Just water. Slowly. Softly. Simply by continuing to flow.

August is giving you an advantage, so use it. People are outside, social, traveling, gathering, feeling good, feeling tan, feeling finnnnne. Dating doesn't always have to mean another app, another singles event, or another scheduled first date. Sometimes it's simply being a little more awake to who's already around you.

Have you ever asked yourself..."If the right person walked into my life tomorrow, would I truly be ready for them?" We spend so much time evaluating everyone else - their communication, their emotional availability, their effort - but we rarely turn the mirror around and ask how we're showing up. Before you ask, "Where are all the good ones?"ask yourself a more powerful question: Am I becoming the person I hope to find?

Last weekend, I had the incredible privilege of celebrating the wedding of one of my matchmaking clients. Watching him marry the woman he calls "the love of my life" was a beautiful reminder of why I do this work.

When I noticed that this week's newsletter is Issue #143, it instantly transported me back to a much simpler time. Long before emojis, texting, and dating apps, "143" was a simple shorthand for "I love you." It had been passed around in notes and conversations for years, but the pager era made those three little numbers iconic.

As I'm writing this tonight, I'm sitting in my backyard watching fireflies dance across the lawn. They're beautiful, aren't they? Magical, even. But if you've ever tried to catch one, you know what happens. You run from one little flash of light to the next, only to watch it disappear and pop up somewhere else.

If there's one thing I wish for you, it's that you don't wait until you're in a relationship to celebrate the LOVE in YOUR LIFE. Yes, my work is to help people find LOVE, and I believe deeply in the beauty and importance of partnership. But I also believe this: your life deserves to be celebrated now, not someday. The relationships you nurture with friends, family, your community, and most importantly, with yourself, are all part of your beautiful life of love.

Everyone wants the outcome. Few people appreciate the process. But the process isn't just getting you to the relationship... it's preparing you for it. I was thinking about that tonight as I wrapped up a full Saturday. Time with my kids. A challenging inversions workshop at yoga (new for me... and so much fun!). Four-plus hours updating my website and clearing my inbox. And now, well after midnight, sitting down to write this newsletter before it lands in your inbox in just a

Serious question. Why is it that we sometimes treat the people we're meeting and dating with less courtesy than we give complete strangers. Think about it. If the electrician calls and leaves a message, we call them back. If the clerk at the store goes out of their way to help us find something, we thank them. If a neighbor stops to ask about our dog, we smile and answer.