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Singles Sparks - CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles - March 22 Edition
- Jill Dunn
- Mar 23
- 4 min read
Hello LoVers, Everyone wants “chemistry” but few people understand what actually creates it. Polarity is a word that gets thrown around a lot in dating right now but not everyone actually knows what it means. At its core, polarity is the dynamic tension between two different energies (often described as masculine and feminine) that creates attraction. It’s the push and pull, the spark, the feeling of chemistry that makes interactions feel engaging instead of flat. But polarity isn’t performative, or it shouldn’t be at least. It’s not about playing a role, following a script, or trying to act a certain way to create attraction. It’s something that naturally emerges when two people feel safe enough to express themselves authentically. What I see more often is people trying to manufacture polarity, forcing behaviors that don’t feel natural, or following advice that disconnects them from themselves. If you’re exploring polarity, start by checking in with yourself. Do you feel more like you in this dynamic, or less? Are you relaxed and engaged, or overthinking and trying to get it “right”? Healthy polarity is built on emotional connection and compatibility not forced behavior. Because without that foundation, even the most “chemistry-filled” connections tend to fall apart. The goal isn’t to play a role, it’s to create a dynamic where both people can show up fully and feel met in a way that actually works. If you’re not sure what that kind of dynamic looks like for you or you keep finding yourself in the same patterns, that’s often where a combination of guidance and real opportunity makes all the difference. This is the juiciest work. Growing through reflected upon experiences, in real time, through actual connection. The private matchmaking waitlist is open for those ready for a more intentional, supported, and curated approach to dating. Not quite ready for full-service matchmaking? Join the Jillin’ It SIngles Network to be considered for current and future clients. You never know… Want to chat? Get in touch to schedule a complimentary 10 minute call to see if my private and personalized Matchmaking service is a fit for you. In this week’s HOT TOPIC, we’re talking about emotional surveillance. Plus, read our TOP 3mistakes that kill chemistry. And don’t miss this week’s funnies at the bottom. Gotta laugh because this dating game is NO JOKE! Check this week’s Singles Spotlight to see if YOUR match is featured this week. Then, click here to schedule a 10 minute call so I can learn a bit more about you and see if my private and personalized Matchmaking service is right for you. Big love to you always! xo, Jill |
What Wo(Men) Want! Roundtable Discussion |
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This month, the Jillin’ It LoVe CluB is opening the doors for our monthly online roundtable on March 31st. Join us for a live, interactive roundtable where men and women share what’s really going on in early-stage dating - what builds attraction, what quietly turns people off, and what actually matters. This isn’t a webinar—it’s a conversation. Whether you’re actively dating or just want a better understanding of today’s dating landscape, you’ll walk away with valuable perspective (and likely a few “aha” moments). |
Incase you missed it on the Radio… |
Did you know that I’m answering your dating questions on the radio every Thursday at 7:30 am on The Christine & Salt Show on 96.5 TIC? Have a question you want answered on air? Submit it here. |
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Singles Spotlight: Is HE Your Match? |
WOMEN, ages 27-37, in the CT/NYC area… Are you confident and compassionate? Do you live a healthy lifestyle with a good sense of humor? If this sounds like you, you may be a match for my grounded, thoughtful, and quietly confident client, G. G keeps a healthy, active rhythm to life. He is an avid golfer who also values the simple things: mornings that start early, staying active, and spending time with family and friends. He travels occasionally but overall enjoys a balanced lifestyle that leaves room for both adventure and routine. If you are a good match and are interested in learning more, email me! |
HOT TOPIC: What is Emotional Surveillance? |
Emotional availability, as we are told, is about being open, attuned, and responsive in relationships. It often involves noticing subtle shifts in tone, to check in with someone or to “hold space” for whatever might be going on with them. When it’s healthy, this attunement builds trust and emotional safety. But there is also a dark side to emotional availability: when it stops being about connection and starts being about surveillance. |
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TOP 3: Mistakes That Make Dates Fall Flat |
Book a call with me to see if I can help you meet your dating goals. Email me |
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CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles
The Funnies! Because You’ve Got to Laugh…
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