Singles Sparks - CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles - October 26 Edition

Hello LoVers,

I believe two things can be true at once. You can feel hopeful about what’s unfolding with a budding connection and still feel the sting of what didn’t work out before. New beginnings don’t erase old endings. Grief and optimism can co-exist. You’re not betraying your choices by honoring your feelings. Read that again.

Remember, we overlook things in new relationships not because we’re naïve, but because love requires belief. If you never risk belief, you never get real connection.

Real progress in dating isn’t being unbreakable. It’s staying open after being hurt. Consider this your permission to:

• Miss what ended and still explore what’s next

• Feel sad and still choose hope

• Learn from the past without blaming yourself for not knowing sooner

  
  

Growth in dating is rarely neat or linear but it still counts. It all matters.

Let’s discuss… This Tuesday 10/28, get in on the Jillin' It LoVe CluB members-only roundtable discussion. We’re talking about self-awareness in dating this month. Learn about attachment styles (and why you should STOP trying to diagnose everyone you meet), self-sabotage, and patterns that affect your relationships. Join the live discussion and bring your dating questions with you. Membership required.

Hey, take a sec to GET IN THE FREE DATE-A-BASE! This is the first place I look to make matches for my private matchmaking clients. You never know who you’ll meet…

Want to chat? Get in touch to see if I can help and get in the Jillin’ It LoVe Club to be matched FIRST.

In this week’s HOT TOPIC, we’re talking about falling in love too quickly. Plus, read our TOP 3ways childhood trauma manifests in relationships. And don’t miss this week’s funnies at the bottom. Gotta laugh because this dating game is NO JOKE!

Check this week’s Singles Spotlight to see if YOUR match is featured this week. Then, click hereto schedule a 10 minute call so I can learn a bit more about you and see if my private and personalized Matchmaking service is right for you.

Big love to you always!

xo,

Jill

Singles Spotlight: Is SHE Your Match?

GUYS between the ages of 60 and 75… Are you honest, stable, and reliable? Do you have a good sense of humor and appreciate the simple things in life? Are you spontaneous and passionate?

If this sounds like you, you may be a match for my thoughtful and genuine client, N. N is down-to-earth, loyal, and values calm, meaningful connections. She leads an active lifestyle, enjoying golf, yoga, and spinning for both health and relaxation. She thrives in one-on-one settings where her wit and intelligence shine but deeply values time with those close to her. 

If you are a good match and are interested in learning more,  email me!

HOT TOPIC: Falling in Love Too Quickly

Three words that are music to our ears after a first anniversary but out of tune after a first date: “I love you.” Potential suitors who profess to be suddenly smitten are viewed with skepticism or suspicion. Yet for people with emophilia, rushed expressions of romance may be well-received—and believed.

Read about it here and tell me what you think!

TOP 3: Ways Childhood Trauma Manifests in Relationships

1. Needing a lot of space or time to yourself: Growing up in a chaotic or unpredictable environment creates a lot of stress, and often leaves children’s central nervous system in a constant state of hyper-vigilance. Staying home, where you can control your surroundings, feels safer and allows you to relax.

2. Unequal financial and household responsibilities: Sometimes this can look like a reluctance to rely on a partner at all due to fears of depending on another person. Other times it takes the form of taking complete financial and/or household responsibility in a partnership, or fully taking care of the other person to the point where you are taken advantage of.

3. Settling and staying in a relationship much longer than its expiration date: When growing up in unstable environments, children often develop a sense of guilt that comes from wanting to end a relationship before we have been able to "fix" the other person. Staying with someone who is not a good fit for us sometimes feels safer than being alone.

CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles

The Funnies! Because You’ve Got to Laugh…

CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles

CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles

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I’m here for you with more opportunities than EVER! Year round singles events,  The Match of the Month Blind Date Activation, Jillin' It Singles Supper Club, Solo to Sparks Dating Intensive, my private and personalized Matchmaking service, complimentary singles network and 203 Singles Facebook group, Meet Up Group, The Four Day Flip and so much more. Here for you!

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