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Singles Sparks - CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles - April 5 Edition
- Jill Dunn
- Apr 7
- 4 min read
Hello LoVers, I had a realization after my divorce that completely changed how I dated. I was going on first and second dates… and feeling constantly disappointed. Not because the men were objectively doing anything wrong. I couldn’t put my finger on it. But eventually I realized it was because of what I expected from them. The truth is, I was holding them to husband level expectations. I expected this stranger to be what I wanted from my husband. I wanted them to be emotionally attuned, consistent, deeply invested, clear about me and aware of my needs. All things that make sense… in a relationship. But not with someone I had just met. And once I saw it, I couldn’t unsee it. I wasn’t actually giving people the space to be new. To be human. To reveal themselves over time. I was evaluating them as if they had already earned a role in my life that they hadn’t yet stepped into. No wonder I felt disappointed. Here’s the AH HA! Early dating isn’t about whether someone is showing up like your future partner. It’s about whether there’s something worth exploring. Curiosity over expectation. Observation over attachment. Let it build. ENJOY the BUILD! The right connection isn’t something you force early. It’s something that reveals itself over time. If you’re constantly feeling let down in early dating, it’s worth asking: Am I expecting partner-level energy from someone who’s still a stranger? Or is the person I’m dating expecting that from me? In this season of renewal, this might be the reset your dating life needs. A chance to approach dating with fresh eyes, less pressure, more openness and a little more grace for the process. You don’t need every person to be “it.” You only need one. Let the rest just be part of the path that gets you there. Here for you. Not quite ready for full-service matchmaking? Join the Jillin’ It Singles Network to be considered for current and future clients. You never know… Want to chat? Get in touch to schedule a complimentary 10 minute call to see if my private and personalized Matchmaking service is a fit for you. We have a fun event coming up in collaboration with the Hartford Yard Goats Baseball team! Check it out + in this week’s HOT TOPIC, we’re talking about the true meaning of “I need space.” Plus, read our TOP 3 ways being the “forgetful one” affects your relationship.And don’t miss this week’s funnies at the bottom. Gotta laugh because this dating game is NO JOKE! Check this week’s Singles Spotlight to see if YOUR match is featured this week. Then, click here to schedule a 10 minute call so I can learn a bit more about you and see if my private and personalized Matchmaking service is right for you. Big love to you always! xo, Jill |
Join us for Single Again in the City on April 14! |
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Join us, in collaboration with Christine & Salt from the 96.5 WTIC Morning Show, forSingle Again In The City - a downtown Hartford divorce party with music, cocktails, and serious glow-up energy. Put on your best outfit, gather your friends, and come make a toast to the future! This ticket secures your seat to the game, and also gives you entry to the Singles Mixer in the Patron Party Porch, hosted by yours truly. Casual fun with low key icebreakers to help singles make connections. Wingman welcome! You never know who you'll meet... |
Singles Spotlight: Is HE Your Match? |
WOMEN, ages 28-42… Are you warm, emotionally grounded, and positive? Do you value family and enjoy the simple things in life? Open to a relationship with a grounded, successful man who values fatherhood and wants to continue to grow his family? If this sounds like you, you may be a match for my client, F. F balances a successful career with a deeply rooted commitment to family. He’s easygoing and organized, equally comfortable grabbing a great dinner, catching a game, or unwinding at a brewery. He believes the best relationships are built on mutual respect, honesty, and a sense of ease. If you are a good match and are interested in learning more, email me! |
HOT TOPIC: The True Meaning of “I Need Space” |
When someone says, “I need space” in a relationship, it’s rarely about distance. More often, this sentence is usually a plea for regulation. Few ideas provoke as much anxiety in relationships as “space.” For some, it sounds like rejection in disguise. For others, it feels like the beginning of the end. The ambiguity of the statement often invites worst-case interpretations, especially when it appears during moments of conflict, stress, or emotional disconnection. |
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TOP 3: Ways Being the “Forgetful One” Affects Your Relationship |
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CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles
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