Singles Sparks - CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles - August 17 Edition

Hello LoVers,

So often, I see singles get caught up in the chase of being liked on a date that they forget to ask the much more important question: Do I actually like them?

When your energy is spent trying to impress and share all of the amazing and impressive things about yourself you miss the chance to feel whether this person aligns with your values, your lifestyle, and your heart. A seriously HUGE, mind-blowing (really!) shift happens when you flip the script and start dating from a place of curiosity about whether someone is truly a fit for you. That’s when dating feels clearer, more grounded, and leads to better matches and that juicy and delicious long term relationship that you’re craving.  

Want to chat? Get in touch to I can see if I can help and get in the Jillin’ It LoVe Club for monthly live roundtables, preferred database status, discounts on events and so much more.

In this week’s HOT TOPIC, we’re talking about the psychology of instant connection. Plus, read our TOP 3 things you should expect from a relationship. And don’t miss this week’s funnies at the bottom. Gotta laugh because this dating game is NO JOKE!

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Check this week’s Singles Spotlight to see if YOUR match is featured this week. Then, click here to schedule a 10 minute call so I can learn a bit more about you and see if my private and personalized Matchmaking service is right for you.

Big love to you always!

xo,

Jill

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Singles Spotlight: Is SHE Your Match?

Are you a man between the ages of 50 and 65? Are you kind and emotionally available? Do you have a curious mind, strong sense of self, and good sense of humor?

If this sounds like you, you may be a good match for my driven and passionate client, J. J is a confident, warm, and grounded woman who leads with heart and humor. She’s well-traveled, Pilates-strong, and always curious — about people, food, culture, and what makes a great conversation. At home, she’s a devoted dog mom. She enjoys watching sports, bowling, paddle boarding and hiking.

If you are a good match and are interested in learning more,  email me!

HOT TOPIC: The Psychology of Instant Connection

Sometimes you meet someone, and you just know that you can communicate. It happens that you say hello to a new coworker or share small talk with a security officer, and you have an instant sense of connectedness. Most probably, you had that feeling with the closest of your friends or your romantic partners from the very first time you met.

Read about it here and tell me what you think!

TOP 3: Things You Should Expect from a Relationship

1. Intimacy: Intimacy is not the same as sex. It means allowing yourself to be known, and wanting to really know your partner. More than just "are you a morning person or a night person”, genuine intimacy is being familiar with each other's emotional, vulnerable selves.

2. Respect: A good partner shows respect for you as a person and for your boundaries. Although he or she may disagree with you, there’s no name-calling or ridicule from a respectful partner, even in the name of “just teasing.” A respectful partner knows and admires your strengths, is gracious about your weaknesses, and doesn't willfully engage in boundary violations.

3. Time: Every relationship is based on sharing at least some time together. It can’t always be helped if your partner has to be away. But if he or she rarely or never has time for you or consistently rations the time you spend together, you might ask yourself how much more of your own time you're willing to spend pursuing them.

   
   

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CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles

The Funnies! Because You’ve Got to Laugh…

CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles

CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles

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