Singles Sparks - CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles - February 1 Edition

Hello LoVers,

What women want on a date and what men want on a date aren’t always the same and that makes sense. We are different. Women often want to feel chosen, relaxed, and emotionally safe. Men often want to feel successful, appreciated, and at ease. Finding the middle ground shouldn’t feel performative. When he leads without pressure and she responds without over-managing or feeling the need to carry the date, both people get to show up more honestly. This is where feminine and masculine energy naturally thrives and where attraction grows. The goal isn’t to impress or audition; it’s to create an experience where both people feel comfortable being themselves. Dating works best when effort is offered, energy is received, and no one’s trying to perform. Try that and let me know how it feels.

The Jillin’ It LoVe CluB just kicked off a 6-week guided reset called Less Hustle, More Heart: The New Dating Strategy for 2026,  If you’re ready to date smarter and feel better doing it, Get in there and we’ll send over week 1’s recording to get you caught up. xo

Want to chat?  Get in touch to schedule a complimentary 10 minute call to see if my private and personalized Matchmaking service is a fit for you.

Take a moment to GET IN THE FREE DATE-A-BASE! This is the first place I look to make matches for my private matchmaking clients. It costs you nothing but can give you everything!

See you on VALENTINES DAY! We’re in Fairfield at Elicit Brewing for a Singles Party on Valentines Day, Saturday 2/14. GET TICKETS!

In this week’s HOT TOPIC, we’re talking about the 3-6-9 rule for relationships. Plus, read ourTOP 3 ways to be emotionally available. And don’t miss this week’s funnies at the bottom. Gotta laugh because this dating game is NO JOKE!

Check this week’s Singles Spotlight to see if YOUR match is featured this week. Then, click hereto schedule a 10 minute call so I can learn a bit more about you and see if my private and personalized Matchmaking service is right for you.

Big love to you always!

xo,

Jill

Valentine’s Day Singles Party + Matchmaking Event

See you there Valentine! This isn’t just a singles party... It’s a real opportunity to make real connections.

Why have one first date on Valentine’s Day when you can meet a whole room of eligible singles in one night? Mixer attendees tend to be 28–50ish but this is an open-aged event. You’ll find your people. Don’t overthink it. Advanced tickets are a MUST.

Looking for a PROMO CODE? Those are reserved for LoVe CluB members only. Click here to get in the LoVe CluB.

Get your ticket here!

Singles Spotlight: Is HE Your Match?

LADIES between the ages of 65-80 in the CT/NY/NJ area..… Are you warm, grounded, and curious? Do you appreciate culture and conversation?

If this sounds like you, you may be a match for my thoughtful, accomplished, and quietly adventurous client, K. K loves culture, great conversation, and evenings that feel intentional—cooking together, films by the fire, or sunset boat rides on the lake. A seasoned traveler, he prefers meaningful travel over rushing: exploring by car, lingering in one place, and looks forward to sharing time in northern Italy or southern France with a partner who values depth and connection as much as he does.

If you are a good match and are interested in learning more,  email me!

HOT TOPIC: The 3-6-9 Rule for Relationships

Like most relationship rules, the 3-6-9 rule isn't a hard and fast one that has legal consequences or holds all the time for everyone. But it does provide some rough guidelines as to how soon may be too soon to make long-term commitments and how long may be too long to stick with a relationship. Each of the three numbers—three, six, and nine—stands for the month that a different common stage of a relationship tends to end.

Read about it here and tell me what you think!

TOP 3: Ways to Be Emotionally Available

1. Be honest about your feelings (with yourself first): Emotional availability starts internally. Notice what you’re actually feeling instead of pushing it away or staying busy to avoid it. Share feelings in real time when appropriate, rather than after they’ve piled up.

2. Communicate clearly instead of protecting yourself: Being emotionally available doesn’t mean oversharing—it means being real. Say what you want, need, or hope for without hinting or testing. Express concerns early, calmly, and directly.

3. Stay present, even when it’s uncomfortable: Availability shows up most when things feel awkward or vulnerable. Don’t shut down, disappear, or distract when emotions get heavy. Listen without planning your defense or exit. Allow closeness to grow at a natural pace instead of controlling it.

   
   

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CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles

The Funnies! Because You’ve Got to Laugh…

CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles

CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles

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