Singles Sparks - CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles - January 18 Edition

Hello LoVers,

January has a way of making dating feel like a full-time job. MORE apps, MORE dates, MORE effort… and somehow LESS clarity. But dating should be FUN, it shouldn’t feel like a HUSTLE. Dating success doesn’t come from grinding harder, it comes from dating with intention, emotional availability, and better discernment. More HEART, less HUSLTE.

If dating feels exhausting right now, that’s not a sign to quit. It’s a sign to REFINE. Calm INTEREST, REAL consistency, and EASE are still wildly underrated and they’re often the strongest indicators that something BEAUTIFUL is bubbling under the surface.

That’s exactly why this month inside the Jillin’ It LoVe CluB I’m launching a 6-week, guided reset designed to help you attract meaningful connection without burnout, overthinking, or forcing chemistry. If you’re ready to date smarter and feel better while doing it, get in the LoVe CluB today and get free access to Less Hustle, More Heart: The New Dating Strategy for 2026 kicking off at our January 27th LoVe CluB online roundtable event. Loads of other perks too. Get in there. xo

Want to chat?  Get in touch to schedule a complimentary 10 minute call to see if my private and personalized Matchmaking service is a fit for you.

Take a moment to GET IN THE FREE DATE-A-BASE! This is the first place I look to make matches for my private matchmaking clients. It costs you nothing but can give you everything!

+ EVENT IS LIVE, VALENTINES! We’re in Fairfield at Elicit Brewing for a Singles Party on Valentines Day, Saturday 2/14. GET TICKETS!

In this week’s HOT TOPIC, we’re talking about the art of holding space. Plus, read our TOP 3ways to reduce swipe fatigue. And don’t miss this week’s funnies at the bottom. Gotta laugh because this dating game is NO JOKE!

Check this week’s Singles Spotlight to see if YOUR match is featured this week. Then, click hereto schedule a 10 minute call so I can learn a bit more about you and see if my private and personalized Matchmaking service is right for you.

Big love to you always!

xo,

Jill

Valentine’s Day Singles Party + Matchmaking Event

This isn’t just a singles party... It’s a real opportunity to make real connections.

What to expect:

- Enjoy live music with lots of local singles

- Casual, no-pressure icebreakers to spark conversation

- A welcoming, social atmosphere

- The chance for connections beyond the event itself

Why have one first date on Valentine’s Day when you can meet a whole room of eligible singles in one night?

Mixer attendees tend to be 28–50ish but this is an open-aged event. You’ll find your people. Don’t overthink it. Advanced tickets are a MUST.

Get your ticket here!

Singles Spotlight: Is SHE Your Match?

GUYS between the ages of 38-45 in the CT/NY/NJ area..… Are you warm, loyal, and emotionally available? Do you know how to communicate? Do you enjoy simple pleasures and value family?

If this sounds like you, you may be a match for my thoughtful and warm-hearted client, S. S laughs easily, values humor over intensity, and is drawn to people who don’t take themselves too seriously. She loves hiking, swimming, skiing, and exploring the outdoors. She finds enjoyment in great food, long walks, books, and cozy nights in. She is social but not a party person; quality time matters to her. She is a dog lover.

If you are a good match and are interested in learning more,  email me!

HOT TOPIC: The Art of Holding Space

Holding space refers to the act of being fully present with someone else, without judgment or distraction, so that the person can share their experiences and perspective. This looks like creating a safe, accepting environment, engaging in attentive listening, and offering non-judgmental support. Research shows that holding space can reduce stress and anxiety, enhance relationships, and improve mental health and well-being.

Read about it here and tell me what you think!

TOP 3: Ways to Reduce Swipe Fatigue

1. Set Intentional Time Limits: Treat dating apps like an appointment rather than endless scrolling. Limit yourself to 15-20 minutes per day, perhaps during a specific time like your morning coffee or evening wind-down.

2. Focus on Quality Over Quantity: Instead of swiping on dozens of profiles daily, be more selective and intentional. Spend time reading full profiles, looking at all photos, and only swiping right on people you're genuinely interested in.

3. Take Regular Breaks and Try Offline Alternatives: Give yourself permission to delete apps for a week or month at a time to reset your mindset. During breaks, focus on meeting people through hobbies, social events, classes, volunteer work, or asking friends for introductions.

   
   

Book a call with me to see if I can help you meet your dating goals. Email me

CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles

The Funnies! Because You’ve Got to Laugh…

CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles

CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles

Curious about Matchmaking? Schedule a call to see if my matchmaking service is something we should consider for you.

I’m here for you with more opportunities than EVER! Year round singles events,  The Match of the Month Blind Date Activation, Jillin' It Singles Supper Club, Solo to Sparks Dating Intensive, my private and personalized Matchmaking service, complimentary singles network and 203 Singles Facebook group, Meet Up Group, The Four Day Flip and so much more. Here for you!

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