Singles Sparks - CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles - May 24 Edition

Hello LoVers,

Quit playing it cool. OK? One of the biggest dating misconceptions is this idea that you can have the deep intimacy that you desire while avoiding vulnerability. You can’t.

I see this constantly. People want closeness, CONSISTENCY, emotional SAFETY, reassurance, and PARTNERSHIP… but at the same time they’re pretending not to care, holding back emotionally, and trying so hard to “play it cool” that nobody actually knows how they feel.

One person pulls back because they think the other isn’t into it. The other mirrors the energy and a connection with real potential quietly dissolves from two people trying not to protect their own hearts.

The reality is: you cannot experience deep connection while being emotionally detached.

I recently had a client who really liked a man I connected her with, but she kept trying to appear unbothered because she didn’t want to seem “too much.” Meanwhile, he interpreted her distance as lack of interest and started pulling back too. Two people genuinely liking each other… both quietly protecting themselves right out of a potentially really great relationship.

Finally she fessed up...“I actually really enjoy spending time with you, and I realized I’ve been holding back a little because I was afraid of getting hurt.” Guess what? Instead of pushing him away, it completely deepened the connection.

So this is your reminder: Be BOLD. Be HONEST.

Like someone? Tell them.

Love someone? TELL them. I dare you.

It's called FALLING IN LOVE because you have to LET GO.

Be open. Be expressive. Be brave enough to let yourself be seen. You can't really say the wrong thing to the right person...

If you’re ready to approach dating with intention, discernment, and a process that is both thoughtful and highly personalized... I am here for you.

Not quite ready for full-service matchmaking? Join the Jillin’ It Singles Network to be considered for current and future clients. You never know…

Want to chat? Get in touch to schedule a complimentary 15 minute call to see if my private and personalized Matchmaking service is a fit for you.

In this week’s HOT TOPIC, we’re talking about slowing down for love. Plus, read our TOP 3 pros of a summer fling. And don’t miss this week’s funnies at the bottom. Gotta laugh because this dating game is NO JOKE!

Check this week’s Singles Spotlight to see if YOUR match is featured this week. Then, click here to schedule a 15 minute call so I can learn a bit more about you and see if my private and personalized Matchmaking service is right for you.

Big love to you always!

xo,

Jill

Incase you missed it…

It’s less about age … and more about stage of life.

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Did you know that I’m answering your dating questions on the radio every Thursday at 7:30 am on The Christine & Salt Show on 96.5 TIC? Have a question you want answered on air? Submit it here.

Singles Spotlight: Is SHE Your Match?

MEN, ages 55-65, in CT, NY, NJ ... does this sound like you? Are you grounded, emotionally intelligent, and kind? Do you have a great sense of humor? Are you confident and socially comfortable?

If this sounds like you, you may be a match for my warm and authentic client, J. J has built a life that is vibrant, grounded, and full of purpose. She’s positive, engaging, and transparent, bringing warmth and ease into her relationships. You’ll find her caring for the animals on her beautiful New Jersey farm, hosting weekly Bible study gatherings, traveling regularly, and enjoying an active social life with friends and family.

If you are a good match and are interested in learning more, email me!

HOT TOPIC: Slow Down for Love

What's the most important thing you can do for your relationship? Slow down! Slow down when you're talking, slow down when you're making love or making dinner, slow down your life in general. In relationships, our too-fast life deprives us of the time we need with our loved ones. And in the time we do have with each other, we are often tired, irritable, and distracted. Interacting in these states can actually damage relationships, making things worse than not being together at all.

Read about it here and tell me what you think!

TOP 3: Pros of a Summer Fling

1. It Can Feel Light, Fun, and Low Pressure: Summer flings often come with fewer expectations and more spontaneity. Sometimes the appeal is simply enjoying connection without immediately planning the future.

2. You Learn About Yourself and What You Want: Even short-term relationships can teach you a lot. Not every relationship has to be permanent to be meaningful or informative.

3. It Can Rebuild Confidence and Openness: After a breakup or dating burnout, a positive connection can be energizing. Sometimes a fling isn’t about finding “the one” — it’s about reconnecting with yourself and enjoying the season you’re in.

   
   

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CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles

The Funnies! Because You’ve Got to Laugh…

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