Singles Sparks - CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles - November 23 Edition

Hello LoVers,

Gratitude as a dating strategy? I DIG! With Thanksgiving this week, I want to offer a reframe for you: GRATITUDE isn’t just a mindset tool, it really is a dating strategy. When you shift from “nothing is working” to NOTICING the people, opportunities, and lessons that are SHOWING UP, your energy CHANGES, your CONFIDENCE rises, and you start ATTRACTING from a place of ABUNDANCE instead of scarcity. It’s amazing how different dating feels when you’re not searching from a deficit. There are NO BAD DATES (well, sometimes there are) but for the most part they’re human experiences that we can learn, grow and expand from and for. Give it whirl. xo

Andddd our Annual Singles Holiday Soiree is LIVE! Get your tickets here!

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In this week’s HOT TOPIC, we’re talking about how “the ick” is ruining dating. Plus, read ourTOP 3 ways to move an online chat to an in-person date. And don’t miss this week’s funniesat the bottom. Gotta laugh because this dating game is NO JOKE!

Check this week’s Singles Spotlight to see if YOUR match is featured this week. Then, click hereto schedule a 10 minute call so I can learn a bit more about you and see if my private and personalized Matchmaking service is right for you.

Big love to you always!

xo,

Jill

Single Bells! Singles Holiday Soiree is LIVE! 12/11!

Single Bells! Single Bells! Join us for a holiday soirée like no other, curated especially for the vibrant singles in our community. This is an open-aged event. All are welcome!

And because 'tis the season of giving,*Bring a small wrapped gift to participate in the gift exchange. This'll be fun and a great way to get to connect with other singles.

Remember, dressing to impress isn't just a suggestion—it's your ticket to staying on the "nice list" and making a memorable impression. So, come decked out in your finest attire and get ready to connect, celebrate, and perhaps find that special someone amidst the festivities!

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Singles Spotlight: Is SHE Your Match?

GUYS between the ages of 65 and 72 in NY..… Are you smart, creative, funny, kind, and emotionally intelligent? Do you appreciate the arts and enjoy the city and the beach?

If this sounds like you, you may be a match for my vibrant and genuine client, E. Photography is her passion and creative outlet, and she never says no to a night at the theater, a museum opening, or an opera. She divides her time between the city and North Fork where she enjoys swimming, reading, and recharging by the sea.

If you are a good match and are interested in learning more,  email me!

HOT TOPIC: How “The Ick” is Ruining Dating

Even when your intentions are clear, it’s common to let assumptions dictate your dating choices, which can create a gap between perception and reality. Instead of seeing people as complex, we reduce them to checklists of “icks:” small behaviors or quirks that people consider instant turn-offs. While it’s practical and often helpful to know exactly what you can’t stand or absolutely don’t want in a partner, focusing too much on icks can backfire.

Read about it here and tell me what you think!

TOP 3: Ways to Move from an Online Chat to In-Person Date

1. Bring Up a Shared Interest and Suggest Meeting Around It: If you’ve bonded over coffee, food, music, or activities, use that as the bridge: “You mentioned you love iced chai…want to grab one this weekend?” It feels organic and tied to your existing conversation.

2. Use Timing + Momentum: When the conversation is flowing and you’re already laughing or sharing stories, that’s the perfect moment to say: “This would be way more fun to talk about in person — want to meet up?” You're simply shifting an already good vibe offline.

3. Offer a Low-Pressure Mini Meetup: Keep it casual and easy to say yes to: “I’m free for a quick coffee or walk this week — what’s your schedule like?” Short meetups feel safe, doable, and low-stake.

   
   

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CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles

The Funnies! Because You’ve Got to Laugh…

CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles

CT and NY Matchmaker Insights for Singles

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