Singles Sparks - Your Weekly Love Link - MAY 18

Hello Lovers, 

Something hit to me this week as I’ve been considering candidates for different support roles here at Jillin’ It. It occurred to me how much dating is actually like hiring. You’re “hiring” for the most important position in your life. So, you should date like you're hiring: don't just look for chemistry, look for character. The elusive “sparks” are fun, but it's shared values, communication, and consistency that build real relationships. Think long-term. Would you 'hire' this person to be your life partner? Choose someone who shows up, not just someone who shows off. Anyone can craft an impressive resume but you won’t really know if they’re a keeper until they’ve already been hired.

Remember: Even the most exciting job interview doesn’t guarantee a great employee and the same goes for first dates. Just some food for though.

Want to chat? Get in touch to I can see if I can help and get in the Jillin’ It LoVe Club for monthly live roundtables, preferred database status, discounts on events and so much more.

NEW EVENT IS LIVE! + In this week’s HOT TOPIC, we’re talking about modern dating lingo. Plus, read our TOP 3 signs someone is floodlighting. And don’t miss this week’s funnies at the bottom. Gotta laugh because this dating game is NO JOKE!

If you haven’t already, GET IN THE FREE DATE-A-BASE! This is the first place I look to make matches for my private matchmaking clients.

Check this week’s Singles Spotlight to see if YOUR match is featured this week. Then, click here to schedule a 10 minute call so I can learn a bit more about you and see if my private and personalized Matchmaking service is right for you.

Big love to you always!

xo,

Jill

Sign Me Up: A Singles Mixer on May 23!

Join us at Sign of the Whale's rooftop bar to mix and mingle with local singles and potentially meet your match. Meeting other singles is tough... so we're make it easy by bringing together singles for you at this fun, laid back event!

Check-in starts at 6:30pm. This is an open-aged mixer so singles of all ages are welcomed to attend. However, keep in mind events are typically attended mainly by singles ranging from 30-55. Extended happy hour pricing will be offered.

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Singles Spotlight: Is HE Your Match?

Are you a woman between the ages of 23 and 31 in the CT area? Are you family-oriented, outgoing, kind, and loyal? Do you enjoy traveling, and are you ready to start a family?

If this sounds like you, you may be a good match for my driven and hardworking client, M. M is a problem solver. He is inquisitive, kind, and loyal. He likes traveling, golfing, and spending time outdoors. He is a provider, and family is very important to him.

If you are a good match and are interested in learning more,  email me

HOT TOPIC: MODERN DATING LINGO

When did finding love become so complex that it feels like a new dating term emerges seemingly every day? You probably have heard some terms of “ghosting” and “love bombing.” However, others, such as “dry texting,” “rusting,” and “sweatpants theory,” are likely less familiar.

Read about it here and tell me what you think!

TOP 3: Signs Someone Is Floodlighting

1. Immediately Overshare Personal Traumas: Some people floodlight because they mistakenly believe that such vulnerability creates instant intimacy. Instead of strengthening bonds, oversharing can make the other person take a step back, creating emotional distance rather than closeness.

2. Expect Instant Emotional Reciprocity: Opening up in a new relationship should be a mutual process unfolding gradually as trust develops. But when someone floodlights, they often anticipate immediate emotional reciprocity, expecting their date to share their own deep vulnerabilities in return.

3. Use Vulnerability to Test Acceptance: Vulnerability is a powerful tool for connection, but when it’s used to test whether someone will accept you, it can create unintended emotional pressure. Instead of encouraging genuine intimacy, oversharing too soon can become a defense mechanism.

   
   

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The Funnies! Because You’ve Got to Laugh…

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